Take Off the Mask of Sexual Anxiety with Eight or so Questions
1. Does the word sex surface positive or negative feelings in you? Why? If you are ambivalent (sometimes you feel positively and sometimes you feel negatively), can you identify the specific times and reasons? Maybe this word surfaces no feelings; if this is the case, can you identify the reason for your numbness?
2. How would you describe the ideal sexual relationship? Be specific.
3. Is sex with your spouse a routine act or a true expression of shared sexual love? Why or why not?
4. Aside from the sexual act, how do you feel about your sexuality - your manhood or your womanhood? On these feelings or thoughts - where do you need the most affirmation?
5. Do you trust your spouse with sexual feelings outside of the home? Why or why not? Do you see this as your problem, your spouse's problem, or a combination of the two?
6. What do you see as the one major hindrance in the sexual part of your marriage?
7. In your sexual relationship with your spouse, what communicates true intimacy to you?
8. What could you do differently to enhance your sexual relationship with your spouse and make it spark?
